Parshat Chayei Sarah (+ Pesach)
by Rabbi Avi Billet
| And they blessed Rebecca and said to her, "Our sister, may you become thousands of myriads, and may your seed inherit the cities of their enemies." | | וַיְבָֽרְכ֤וּ אֶת־רִבְקָה֙ וַיֹּ֣אמְרוּ לָ֔הּ אֲחֹתֵ֕נוּ אַ֥תְּ הֲיִ֖י לְאַלְפֵ֣י רְבָבָ֑ה וְיִירַ֣שׁ זַרְעֵ֔ךְ אֵ֖ת שַׁ֥עַר שֽׂנְאָֽיו: |
This is the blessing offered as a parting shot to Rivkah on the way out of her home, accompanied by some girls and Avraham's servant. (24:60)
Since the blessing is worded with "Our sister," one can naturally imply that the blessing was given by her brother Lavan. It sounds like a great blessing! Until we consider what the blessing might actually mean.
The Talmud tells us (Baba Basra 110a) that when a man is looking to marry he should inquire about the woman's brothers.
אמר רבא: הנושא אשה צריך שיבדוק באחיה, שנאמר: ויקח אהרן את אלישבע בת עמינדב אחות נחשון, ממשמע שנאמר בת עמינדב, איני יודע שאחות נחשון היא? מה תלמוד לומר אחות נחשון? מכאן, שהנושא אשה צריך שיבדוק באחיה. תנא: רוב בנים דומין לאחי האם.
The example the Talmud gives is from Aharon, who married Elisheva daughter of Aminadav, who, when introduced, is also identified as the sister of Nachshon. The Talmud asks, if she's Aminadav's daughter, isn't it obvious that she is Nachshon's sister? Why tell us that she is his sister? The answer given is that most of the sons she produces will be most like her brother. In Aharon's case, therefore, it was an excellent match!